So grant her wish: Stop talking to her. I never want her to feel like she is no longer important to me. Some siblings just aren't close and there's no point trying to force it. We were inseparable most of that time, but, all of a sudden, he doesn’t want me around. You can care about someone but not be close. She is effectively telling you to shut up. Maybe you should just give her some space; or you could possibly, ask her what kinds of things she's into and find if you have a similar interest that you guys could do together :)? It was prompted by a comment I left on a friend’s Facebook post about their own mother, sympathizing with the complicated and difficult relationship they have. He tells me the honeymoon is over. are you patronizing and/or condescending towards herOMG she's patronising to me. In fact, she said that she deeply loves and cares for me. I'm not sure I'm really up for that though...Actually what I've done is not be in contact much, but chat sometimes. I am a guy and I'm 13 and my sister is 18. Another thing that kind of bothers me is she trash talks about me with her friends. My name is Rebecca and sometimes I get the feeling that my husband doesn’t like me. That when she becomes nice and starts giving me importance. This is just like me and my MIL! One advice I can also give you is that GOD is your everything..your parents never supported you, your sister has turned into garbage you don't need to care for anymore, but GOD will always remain with you and in your support. We're not that close a family anyway so it's not a huge difference but she probably thinks I haven't been supportive enough since my dad died. The reality is that siblings don’t always get on. But we're not kids now.But even so, now, I can't do anything right. If you do decide to confront her be prepared to hear things you might not want to. My friends/cousins/family/homies all told me not to bring my gf to the small parties we have cause she’s to quietwhat should I do?Descriptio? My sister used to always look after me when we were younger. She doesn’t care (ouch) so bounce the Don’t Care Bear right back at her. We see one another infrequently, and we are polite to one another, but we aren’t close. Just because you share the same parents it doesn't mean you have to be friends. Of course she doesn't, as her recent contact with you shows. But suddenly I find I can't ignore it. Unconditional love towards my mother on my part no longer looks like me accepting her devaluing and abusive actions and regard towards me. Last year our father was very ill, and then died. She has gone through some mental/emotional changes, which are retarded, and no longer wants to be lovey-dovey with you because she feels 'immature' doing it, which is stupid. Dump her.If she were not your sister, would you tolerate this behavior from a friend? Some dogs don’t like to sleep on a surface that’s too soft. But I don't want to cause arguments. I realised this recently. If you need to keep the connection, then your suggestion of emotionally detaching will work. Like most other marriages, my marriage to Matthew started off great, but it seems like things have quickly been going downhill for the last few years. Just because she is my sister, doesn’t me I am obliged to accept her into my life. 1. 2. I don't think that I bug her too much, but I don't know. We used to be super close. If we were not siblings, we would not be friends. Whether or not you think your sister-in-law is crazy depends a lot on what crazy means for you. your sister is a mental and physical abuser who needs to quit bulling you. Its like she wants nothing to do with me. Say that you would love to be closer but you can't bear the way that the two of you argue so much when you're together. DH notices she does this too. How to tell someone besides saying hi hello to my family , I have left it and everyone is okay with that ? She is fed up with her antics, especially this last incident where his sister called her out of her name, and acted as if she wanted to fight her. We would do stuff together all the time and I always thought of her as my best friend. In some cultures, like Indian ones, there is an extremely special relation between sister and brother, and this is actually celebrated in the form of an annual festival. I just want her to stop being such a bitch! And tbh I'm sick of walking on egg shells now I realise that's what I've been doing for so long. Abby has never read Harry Potter, because she doesn't like to read, unlike her sister Haley who's obsessed. I didn't always bite my lip and we ended up having an argument, but this time I stood my ground and said "look sis, this is what you're doing. Talk widget showing discussions of the day & trending threads, Subscribe to Mumsnet emails direct to your inbox. But I know if I tell her to effectively fuck off and leave me alone she'll be hurt and I know I'll regret it. Nothing I can do is right. My sis and I used to argue lots as kids and teens. Also, she is incredibly sexist, being a girl herself - she would call you a 'weak little girl', implying sexist crap like 'girls' are weak and that 'boys' can't have nightmares and shouldn't want emotional support, etc. To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account. I have my days but she softened me up. You’re not some dumb boyfriend. But, she always has something to say, doesn't approve of his marriage to her, and has started arguments with her. You argue with me every time I have an opinion." But it's become apparent to me that on a day to day level, she doesn't actually like me. I live in London with my younger brother, Matthew, my younger sister, Annabell and my older sister, Satelizer. ? I'm currently NC with my sister for exactly the same reason. I don’t think she means it. It may take some courage and honesty to self evaluate, but are you patronizing and/or condescending towards her? When I complement her it means nothing to her and she just blows it off. Protect yourself from getting hurt is spot on. Live Well Nebraska Ask Amy: My fiancée's mom helped her buy a house and doesn't want me on the deed. and she admitted that yes, she is aware she does that sometimes. My client felt guilty and ashamed that at that moment she didn’t like her daughter. But some of the indicators that your sister-in-law is not considerate of your needs include being sent masses of outraged text messages, being asked to take part in gossipy "rumor has it" phone calls, and always wanting to be updated about your business. People change over the years, they meet new people try out new things. I can't change my basic personality type. By: Soccer Freak 101. bitch eating crackers Bitch eating crackers link - hope it works this time. My sister used to always look after me when we were younger. Carolyn Hax: My fiance casually mentioned that his sister doesn’t like me anymore Plus, gay man wonders if it’s a great personal achievement to not care what other people think about him. A lot of things happened in that time and our marriage started to … It's a huge win. I really hope my kids will get on okay when they grow up. But some or most teenage girls go through a stage where they think more of boyfriends and her friends and think less or rarely not at all about their family. I want my DC to have a good relationship with their aunt. It sounds like a phase... Hopefully things are better now. I'm assuming you're a 'HARDCORE' western white boy, joe shitler. 3. I still feel protective of her as my little sister, and I don't really want to cut her off. * * * A week ago, my father called to tell me my mother didn’t want to speak to me anymore. GOD only knows what kind of vulgar cultures and ugly societies and families some people live in that make their minds as shitty as joe muddler's. We would do stuff together all the time and I always thought of her as my best friend. Then occasionally as adults. I only have her and my mum. Youre different people. Can you tell I’ve been there, done that, got the (whole closet full) t-shirt? One time you should be mean back see how she likes it:p. Never talk to her again, see how she likes it. I realised this recently. To ask why are part time workers disliked? just give her space, and see what happens. There is no point forcing a relationship - older one and I are very different people and actually actively dislike each other tbh, younger one and I just don't have much time for each other. Your Bed is Too Small. She is an adult now. This made me cry.. and while i'd like to say that i'm over it i'm not. If you need help urgently, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide, which can point you to expert advice and support. Why do you think you need to be friends?Because I do care about her, even if she is being a cow.Because she's family. But I don't think I can carry on ignoring it. The pattern that we'd fallen into as young adults was this:- I say something (usually expressing an opinion about something)- Sis would be annoyed at what I've said, then arsey to me- I react in kind- Sis seems totally unaware that she was arsey and reacts as if I've attacked her from nowhereSo, in order to keep the peace, for years now, the pattern has been this:- I express an opinion- Sis is arsey to me- I bite my lip to keep the peaceI've got so used to doing that I'd stopped noticing it happening.But with my father's death to deal with, there were things I did want to voice an opinion about, and I became aware that she basically doesn't like me having opinions. Making boundaries is a response to her behavior, not because you are being a mean bitch (she covers that base).Do not get caught up in what she may be thinking or not thinking (regarding supportiveness, family duty, anything) You don’t know what she is thinking. I am a guy and I'm 13 and my sister is 18. When I was having a problem or I was feeling bad, she'd always be there to solve my problems and make me feel much better. So, what now? Do you have questions about creating positive bathroom habits and routines? Dad Doesn't Love Me. We don't argue these days though. I always try to spend time with her hoping she might go back to her old ways, such as I come up and sit with her while she's watching TV, and she always rolls her eyes and acts like I'm not there. She just doesn't like me. Posted Mar 19, 2015 I can't change my basic personality typeBut neither can she? Advice needed ASAP. I have a similar problrm im 14 and shes 15 and i no longer see her apart from in school and still acts like i dont exist. We have never fallen out or argued as adults. And probably not so “little” now either.Personal rant alert (sorry) It was an irritant to me that my sister (two years older than I) would always introduce me as her little sister (even after I asked her to say “younger”). We would do stuff together all the time and I always thought of her as my best friend. It’s not dorky or weird. It is of love and of sister- and brother-hood, not of the likes of people like you and your vulgar minds and ugly thoughts. We'd spoken on the phone the day before and her words – that I was "very clever" – had crowned my post-birth euphoria. This poem was one I wrote after my dad told me he didn't love me. We don’t speak much because it always ends in an argument but I just can’t bite my tongue when she does this crazy stuff and stresses my parents out I feel like that would be enabling her behaviour. It’s okay to hug. I was standing in my room—in tears, and she was in the hallway and we were arguing about something that I can’t even remember now, I think it had to do with my little sister. She hasn't spoke to me since. Arapaima it's a great description isn't it, I’m actuslly like this with my DGM I’m very close to her but she is over bearing. This is the best option for both wife and husband. Sometimes she will make fun of me and I will actually cry and she just tells me to stop acting like a little five year old. What would you do? Now, after forty years, I get it too. If you asked my sister if she likes me, she'd probably say yes (I think) and she'd say she cares about me. Honestly I don't think he'll ever pressure me to do anything I wouldn't want to do cause he's so sweet and such a great guy. )It's actually a relief. Let it go, you can't change anything but your attitude to it, as they say. He gets it. I think being so distant from a lot of my family maybe gives me a different view. My sister doesn't like my boyfriend because he's two years older then me (hes 17 my sister's age and I'm 15). But blinkowl those reasons don't mean you need to be friends. (Tomorrow). I get this. We haven't for years, but I now see that's because I've been ignoring her being arsey to me. So if u ask me u should stop letting her use u for favors and say that she needs to give respect to get it, sorry I'm late but I have the same issue my sister is 13 and is a ***** to me just because I'm different then her and I have some issues. My sister does the same and now i just ignore her and when she asks for a favor i refuse. Hope I helped. Should I try to speak to her? You just have to do the right actions and devote yourself, your mind, soul, and body, to GOD and GOD's service, in whatever form you know..better than wasting time creating hope in a hopeless world. Dear Annie: My husband doesn’t spend time with me anymore. Sisters are like elephants: If you have a sister, be prepared to have her bring up past wrongs and incidents--even going as far back as elementary school--where she believed (and still believes) you were the guilty one. She's the loser and the idiot. I dont get on well with my sister. If she weren’t family, she wouldn’t be someone I would have anything to do with.” Ouch. I don't tell her how to run hers. She also finds it funny to wrestle me, which is kind of fun I guess, but she always wins and doesn't let me up until I tell her that I am a weak little girl. Unconditionally loving my mother is only possible when I respect and love myself in the true definition of love. She speaks incredibly rudely to and about everyone. I was the one doing this for my little sister, I feel so bad, I'd hit her sometimes, now she's changed and barely talks to me about issues, I'm so sorry for what happened, beyond this point, tease her ;(. FWIW I think my S is a selfish, bossy neurotic. This is page 1 of 2 (This thread has 37 messages.). And that's a serious question. How do you think about the answers? Our best answer is to talk with your husband. This, though, slices like a knife to a vital artery in a way because I can’t imagine my life without you in it. She hates me now that I have the confidence to stand up to her and calls me anything under the sun for doing so like a stuck record, and I got bored with it long ago. And a little child running to his older sibling's bed at night for support is NOT WEIRD. Why do you think you need to be friends? Don't get me wrong she will be there for me and I will be there for her if needed - but we don't have to like each other.Apart from parents we have nothing in common. Why Won’t My Dog Sleep in Bed With Me? This will make it very very hard for your sister to change, even if she recognises some truth in what you are saying (it's interesting that she admitted she realises she doesn't like you having an opinion). I guess just getting older, you sort of grow out of it. Now it's so clear to me, it hurts. 15 Unfortunate Signs Your Husband Doesn’t Love You Anymore. She doesn't cheer you on. Rolled her eyes every time her husband dared to take a breath. 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